Expansion in Marriage

Living things expand, then contract. Marriage is like a living organism, like a lifespan. We expand to middle age, then our form begins to contract. Mother Earth is expanding, and like other celestial beings, will eventually contract.  We hold the ability in...

I have a 6 month old, and on his father’s side they love to pick him up as soon as he cries (they do this with all the kids in the family). The thing is, on my side of the family, they get so mad at me for picking up my son as soon as he cries. They say I am causing him future behavior issues. I get shamed by my family. What am I supposed to do?

This situation can be challenging, especially when your baby is so young and you are doing so much to care for your child and for yourself. Be gentle with yourself and keep your focus on your baby. It's important to know securely attached infants are consistently...

I have a life coach that I love and my family thinks it’s not smart to work with a life coach. I’ve had therapists in the past and it didn’t do much for me. Now, I’m getting results. What do you think?

Let’s take a moment to reflect on how our approach to emotional and psychological healing has evolved. In the early days, only medical doctors were permitted to “treat” patients. Their interventions included invasive procedures such as lobotomies and electroconvulsive...

So this happened to my family today – I recieved the below text from a neighborhood friend my oldest daughter has basically grown up with. I’m not quite sure how she even came to this conclusion, as my family and I are relatively private people. I’m sad my daughter has lost a friend, and just wondering the best way to navigate this as they are neighbors, so running into them is inevitable…

Utilitarianism is a common belief system, meaning you put the good of the community over your own needs and values. If they believe vaccines keep the general population healthier and hold the value of the greater good over individualism, autonomy, and medical freedom...

Six Words to Build Autonomy and Save Parental Energy

For the next seven days, try this! Find a piece of paper. Write these six words on it: What can you do about that? Put it in your pocket. For the next week, when your child asks you a question, needs help with something you want them to accomplish on their own, or is...
Husband just admitted to having an affair. We have 3 kids at home, and I’m still just trying to process all of this. He has said he does not want to split everything and wants custody. I guess what’s I’m asking is should I hire a cut throat lawyer?

Husband just admitted to having an affair. We have 3 kids at home, and I’m still just trying to process all of this. He has said he does not want to split everything and wants custody. I guess what’s I’m asking is should I hire a cut throat lawyer?

The court is going to look at what has been documented through law enforcement. The court does not care about affairs or why the marriage ended. Stay focused on what matters, which is creating a strong coparenting relationship with your child’s father. This is the...

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Should I let my child close their bedroom door?

Should I let my child close their bedroom door?

A common question from parents of young children is, “Should I let my child close their bedroom door?” or from parents of older teens, “My child wants a lock for their bedroom door, is this a good idea?” * Why does this matter? An optimal way to help your child learn...

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Let it go

Let it go

It’s  a disservice to say “let it go” to loved ones or any “ones” who are  caught in a thought or behavior pattern or an addiction that is not  working for them. * “Let  it go” makes it sound easy, as if you’d get the same, immediate outcome ...

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A Strategy for Grace: For yourself and others

A Strategy for Grace: For yourself and others

The holidays (and regular days!) can create a lower stress threshold, causing even simple things others say or do to become annoying. When chronic annoyance is present, it is the annoyed, not the annoyer, who has some work to do. Impatience, annoyance,...

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The Essentials of Shame, Part 3

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3 In Part 1, we talked about why shame is chosen. In Part 2, we dove into how each parenting style affects the development of shame. What now? What if you carry shame from childhood, or can see that you say and do things that may be...

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The Essentials of Shame Part 2

The Essentials of Shame Part 2

Click here to read Part 1. It’s useful to understand how and why shame is chosen when we are children. Once this is understood, shame can begin to be healed and released. For parents, this healing work helps them build a parenting style that minimizes the development...

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