There’s not much more that I can say about Cara that hasn’t already been said in previous reviews but what I can attest to is her empathy, caring, and her education based techniques that helped me break through in a number of areas of which I had previous struggled. I had seen a number of therapists and coaches over the years but Cara took a different approach when diving into the challenges that I had been facing e.g. understanding why I responded to authority and male figures in a particular way, and had other unwanted responses with specific triggers. She immediately did a deep dive (called an un-conditioning) over three hours to help me better understand traumatic incidents of my childhood and adulthood, and the resulting beliefs and limitations created by these. This session served as a base for us to forge a path forward. She then gave me a method for reversing the inner critic that had been playing in my head for so many years. Finally, she gave me many tools that I could use when I encountered situations where my typical response would not be favorable and likely a result of childhood trauma. Many of us struggle with responses where we question our behaviors but don’t know how to reverse them since they have been so ingrained in our being over the years. Cara was truly a miracle worker in helping me achieve more thoughtful, enlightened, and integrated responses to many triggers that I had previously encountered. She helped me see light at the end of the tunnel and provided hope that I could change my responses well into my adulthood and that I didn’t have to buy into what others had told me over the years and that I could never change. Without Cara’s coaching and support over a three-month period, I’m not sure that I would have had the courage or tools to have made some very large and positive leaps in my life.
One point to mention that was pivotal in Cara’s approach and helped me connect with her recommendations was her use of my faith in reinforcing the specific tool or technique she was providing. She wants to understand your faith or spiritual belief system if you have one, whatever that may be, and then connects it to the work in a powerful way. I am a woman of faith and to have a coach that you not only connect with on a psychological level but also a spiritual level is profound. It makes the experience richer but also that much more effective.
I truly can’t speak highly enough of Cara’s techniques, background, and approach – it is the perfect balance of using the past to forge a new future with empathy, kindness, and love. It is something that many of us haven’t felt over the years but can find it in her. 


Michelle Goddard


Included in this email is Cara Day, my parenting coach. As I mentioned she has changed my parenting more than any other person, book, seminar or other resources. The only thing better than her expertise, her coaching talents, and her wisdom on all things kids, is her generous spirit. I don’t know if she is taking on new clients right now, but here’s her number.

Father of 4

La Jolla, CA

I started working with Cara Day in 2013. Her methods were a game-changer for our family. We had worked with therapists for a few years and made some progress, but it did not compare to the work we do with Cara. The Choice Chart and the ability to be coached remotely in the most stressed situations made an incredible shift in our family. Cara coaches me and my two children, a half hour per week each. She helped me stop using language that was creating shame in my children. Cara helped me understand what is actually happening within my children when I handle situations in a certain way. Now I have an almost teenager and another one coming up after that. It’s like she handed me a roadmap. I know where I’m going, how to get there, and I get through the bumps on the road with her gentle but straightforward guidance.

Wayne Levy, Father of 2

Del Mar, CA

Before working with Cara, I was struggling to have a deep relationship and connection with my four daughters. As my girls matured, my parenting style of command and control and strong rules and expectations wasn’t working. I needed help to rebuild my connection and learn a new parenting style. I began working regularly with Cara six years ago. I had other parenting coaches, but Cara is so unique because she helped me shift my mindset and beliefs, and helped me realize that the problem is me, not my kids. I had the power to change it. She has an amazing balance of truth and grace, and I needed both. Not only did she help me reframe how I approached parenting and what my vision was, but she also gave me hundreds of practical tips and techniques that I could apply daily. Most coaches cannot do both. She also took a vested interest in learning all about my girls and became an extended part of our family. Today, I have healed the relationships with my daughters and I have a healthy loving relationship with each. I have Cara to thank for this. By changing my mindset, removing my limiting beliefs, and providing me with new skills, I am more confident than ever as a parent. I am well on my path to having lasting relationships with each of my girls that will last after they leave the home. This only was possible with the help of Cara. Every parent needs a coach and Cara is the most qualified, effective, and caring one I’ve ever met. I cannot recommend her enough.

Jason Hartanov

San Clemente, California

Cara Day is a practical genius at teaching not only parents, but students and her fellow practitioners. She has revolutionary, yet proven methods that transform lives. Her parenting philosophy and methods are in-depth, yet practical, tangible, and immediately usable. A breath of fresh air.

Scott Barnett

San Diego Unified School District Board Trustee

Cara Day is simply the best! So great at educating parents and children on best practices of communication. If you have children, no matter what age, you will learn things you did not know you needed to know.

Sheryl and Bobby Martins

San Diego, CA

My daughter was suffering from severe separation anxiety for months. Transitioning out of Preschool and into Kindergarten brought on many emotions (worry/stress/fear/anxiety) for both she and myself, which led me to contacting Cara Day. My daughter attended a summer “kinder camp” held at Day Prep which was designed to get kids excited about school, build confidence in academic projects she was working on with her coach, while also practicing strategic daily drop-offs when separating from me. After two weeks of working with Cara and a wonderful teacher on her team, I noticed a significant improvement in her confidence to leave without tears and struggle. When school started in August, we relied heavily on the tools we learned from Day Prep and their coaching for parents and children—it helped us successfully start kindergarten off on the right foot. The first week of kindergarten was still a struggle, but Miss Day and her team were an amazing support and encouragement to us, and by the end of the second week of school she was no longer crying/clinging/avoiding school. She was excited to be there and get in the classroom, no more rough transitions. I am extremely appreciative of the coaching we received from Day Prep. The parenting tools and The Choice Chart system is now part of our daily approach to responsible kids and a happier household.

Erika, Mother of 3

La Jolla, California