Conversations with my Children: Mackenzie Makes a Decision

Conversations with my Children My daughter, Mackenzie, was deciding whether to give her first boyfriend another chance (actually a 3rd chance), or to end the relationship. When the relationship started, she was 19, he was 21. He held many wonderful qualities and was...

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3In Part 1, we talked about why shame is chosen. In Part 2, we dove into how each parenting style affects the development of shame. What now? What if you carry shame from childhood, or can see that you say and do things that may be...

The Essentials of Shame Part 2

Click here to read Part 1. It’s useful to understand how and why shame is chosen when we are children. Once this is understood, shame can begin to be healed and released. For parents, this healing work helps them build a parenting style that minimizes the development...

The Essentials of Shame

Today I'd like to talk about something that's an important foundation of our work together--healing shame. This will be done in 4 parts. Part 1 today. To start, it's important to understand the origin of shame, why we are biologically programmed to feel it at times...

Winning Ways to Speak and Coach

Learn how to acknowledge and validate your child--they key to being an approachable parent. Develop the skills to become your child's go-to person for all of the most important moments and concerns they experience in life. Click on the image below to read the article....
The Essentials of Shame, Part 3

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3

The Essentials of Shame, Part 3In Part 1, we talked about why shame is chosen. In Part 2, we dove into how each parenting style affects the development of shame. What now? What if you carry shame from childhood, or can see that you say and do things that may be...

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The Essentials of Shame Part 2

The Essentials of Shame Part 2

Click here to read Part 1. It’s useful to understand how and why shame is chosen when we are children. Once this is understood, shame can begin to be healed and released. For parents, this healing work helps them build a parenting style that minimizes the development...

read more
The Essentials of Shame

The Essentials of Shame

Today I'd like to talk about something that's an important foundation of our work together--healing shame. This will be done in 4 parts. Part 1 today. To start, it's important to understand the origin of shame, why we are biologically programmed to feel it at times...

read more
Winning Ways to Speak and Coach

Winning Ways to Speak and Coach

Learn how to acknowledge and validate your child--they key to being an approachable parent. Develop the skills to become your child's go-to person for all of the most important moments and concerns they experience in life. Click on the image below to read the article....

read more
Teenagers and Porn

Teenagers and Porn

There are many ways children can have exposure to porn, even if they are closely supervised, and are being raised by conscientious parents. Here are some of them: Your child’s friend or friend’s older sibling exposes your child to porn either at your house, or when...

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Toddler Talk

Toddler Talk

Parenting a toddler is an exhilarating and humbling experience! By using the same phrases on a regular basis, you create a feeling of security and predictability into the sometimes topsy-turvy world of a toddler. Use these short, positively stated phrases to help your toddler understand what choices they have in any given moment.

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Winning Ways to Speak by Cara Day

Winning Ways to Speak by Cara Day

Winning Ways to Speak by Cara Day The words you use, how they are put together, combined with the open, expansiveness of your eyes, your tone of voice, and the warmth of your body language help determine the quality of your communication with your children (and other...

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Off-Screen Ways to Connect with Your Teen

Off-Screen Ways to Connect with Your Teen

Ten Off-Screen Ways to Connect with Your Teen: And Ten Ways to Connect Using Screens, by Cara Day If you do some simple math when your child starts high school, you’ll discover that you only have about 1,350 days, or 192 weeks left with your child before they head off…

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Making the Family Mealtime Stick

Making the Family Mealtime Stick

Making the Family Mealtime Stick, by Cara Day Research shows regular family meals have many benefits for family members. Criteria for family meal: Seated at shared table All or most family members present No technology on during meal Meals at least 3 or more times per...

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CARA DAY, M.A.

Family Coach

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