The Essentials of Shame
Today I'd like to talk about something that's an important foundation of our work together--healing shame. This will be done in 4 parts. Part 1 today.To start, it's important to understand the origin of shame, why we are biologically programmed to...
Teenagers and Porn
There are many ways children can have exposure to porn, even if they are closely supervised, and are being raised by conscientious parents. Here are some of them: Your child’s friend or friend’s older sibling exposes your child to porn either at your house, or when...
Toddler Talk
Parenting a toddler is an exhilarating and humbling experience! By using the same phrases on a regular basis, you create a feeling of security and predictability into the sometimes topsy-turvy world of a toddler. Use these short, positively stated phrases to help your toddler understand what choices they have in any given moment.
Winning Ways to Speak by Cara Day
Winning Ways to Speak by Cara Day The words you use, how they are put together, combined with the open, expansiveness of your eyes, your tone of voice, and the warmth of your body language help determine the quality of your communication with your children (and other...
Off-Screen Ways to Connect with Your Teen
Ten Off-Screen Ways to Connect with Your Teen: And Ten Ways to Connect Using Screens, by Cara Day If you do some simple math when your child starts high school, you’ll discover that you only have about 1,350 days, or 192 weeks left with your child before they head off…
Making the Family Mealtime Stick
Making the Family Mealtime Stick, by Cara Day Research shows regular family meals have many benefits for family members. Criteria for family meal: Seated at shared table All or most family members present No technology on during meal Meals at least 3 or more times per...
The Real Deal on Your Child’s Imaginary Friend
The Real Deal on Your Child's Imaginary Friend, by Cara Day 1. It's important for parents to know that about one-third of children will create an imaginary friend and those friends will typically stick around for a few days to a few years. Contrary to a common...
CARA DAY, Ph.D.
Family Coach
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